Tuesday 11 August 2015

Teenage relationships.

I have an older sister who has helped me create and interpret my own opinions of relationships as a teenager. 

I believe that your main priority should be getting your GCSE's and grades at this age. You will have plenty of time when you're older to develop your own relationships. Don't think that if your friends all have boy/girlfriends that you need to have one. 

On the other hand if you do happen to gain feelings for another then do not feel pressured to do anything with them. Everyone becomes ready to do different things at different times and when you do come to do things I promise it will be better when you become ready. Your boy/girlfriend should also know that you may not be ready straight away. I probably sound like some 50 year old sex ed teacher but it's just my opinion. I want you all to be safe,comfortable and happy in a relationship. If you choose to have one. 

Since last Christmas I've been talking to a boy. We got along so well and became close but I wasn't looking for a 'relationship'. My friends and a lot of people were telling me I was 'leading him on' so I dated him. I wasn't happy and he understood. It's hard to be friends after you've become that close. 

Just because you date someone it doesn't mean you love them. I don't think 'love' is something you can't achieve at such a young age in your life. You need to experience different things before and meet new people. I don't see how it would work if you have to text your mum when you're together to check in every so often..

I think putting so many labels on the stages of a relationship is stupid. The 'talking' stage, the 'seeing eachother', the 'dating'. Why not just see how it goes? Why do you have to be put into a certain group as to where you are in your friendship with someone? As long as you're happy; it doesn't matter.

I'm not saying I'm right and everyone will have different opinions but that's mine. 

8 comments:

  1. completely agree! you don't have to have a relationship to be happy, i've never had one, and not planning on anytime soon! I will work hard at school, get my grades I want, then (and only then) I will worry about relationships and see where life takes me! Im a very independent person, and id hate to think I had to have a relationship with someone to be happy!
    have a great day, lovely post as usual x
    ~basicallychloe xx
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    1. I'm the same. I hate the idea of depending on someone else for my own happiness. Thankyou!
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  2. I agree. Love isn't something you have right away at our age. It does happen over time. Sometimes it takes years to know. If you are happy you will want to fight to keep the relationship.

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    1. It takes time and effort to be in a relationship and you both have to be prepared to work for it.

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  3. I agree , people should wait until after high school to be in relationships. I didn't really date in high school but the pressure was definitely on. It's easier dating in college in my opinion , no one really cares much about who you are with ( except maybe your closest friends). You can date how you want to. If you want to date around , that's fine or if you want to settle down with one person , that is also fine. It's your life and you don't have to care what others think. Though there is a little bit of pressure to get married when steady dating but I don't really mind that.

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    1. There is plenty of time for enjoying relationships later on, in secondary school you're still so young and need to be enjoying other things.

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  4. I completely agree- I couldn't care less about being in a relationship at my age. Boys smell anyway, so yeah....haha xx

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